Moxie Girl Kids, this is for you. I wish I'd been told some of these things at a young age instead of figuring them out for myself. I know you enjoy making fun of my talk about energy, my yoga and my talk of spirituality...but believe me...one day you'll know...and I hope you remember these words.
Moxie Musing One: Embrace your God given gifts.
Whatever your passion is, pursue it. God gives each of us music that only we can hear. It doesn't matter if your unique talent doesn't lead you to the White House or the corner office--those things are irrelevant if they're not in balance with your personal truth. What matters is that you embrace that gift, that talent, that spark and pursue it no matter what. Maybe your spark will take you to the corner office--but don't go there because of money or validation, go there because it makes your heart sing out loud.
Moxie Musing Two: Move away from me, go on big adventures, live your life without worrying about leaving me behind.
I am raising you to be unafraid of the world and to be independent adults. Never feel guilty for moving where your heart desires and living a big life. I'll be okay. I'm happy. I want you to embrace your world without limits. Go. Do. Live. All I ask is that you check in once and awhile so I can share your excitement--and know that you're alive, that would be nice.
Moxie Musing Three: Have faith.
I don't care what you have faith in, but you must have faith in something greater than yourself. Faith gives you Hope. Hope gives you clarity. Clarity helps you find a solution out of any difficulty. Faith is the foundation that keeps you strong.
Moxie Musing Four: Live in the present.
I honestly don't care what mistakes you make--and neither should you. The only moment that ever counts is the present one. What happened ten years ago is meaningless. Forget about it. Never let your past be an anchor for today.
Moxie Musing Five: Find your inner Chi.
I don't care if you do yoga or not, if you meditate or not (although I highly recommend it). What I mean by this is find something that keeps you calm and practice it daily. Life can be messy, you need to find something that restores your equilibrium as needed. Don't waste one ounce of energy on being stressed--find your inner peace and guard it.
Moxie Musing Six: See the magic in the world
Always view the world with a sense of wonder. Marvel at a shooting star, take time to watch the sunset, enjoy the feel of sunshine on your face, take long walks in nature...the earth is a marvelous place. Never lose that childhood sense of discovery.
Moxie Musing Seven: Be sassy.
I know you each have this in you--keep it. Stand up for what you believe in. Voice your opinions, even if they're contrary to those around you. Don't be a victim. If you're wrong, admit it--but be proud of yourself for not just blindly following the crowd.
Moxie Musing Eight: Trust yourself.
Follow those goosebumps of intuition...listen to that inner voice that's guiding you. You have inner knowing and wisdom that far exceeds anything I can teach you. Trust it. Never diminish yourself or settle for something less than you know you deserve. Trust yourself. Go for the goosebumps of excitement you get when you're truly on the right path.
Moxie Musing Nine: Always cheer for the underdog.
Why? Because they're brave enough to challenge the status quo...because we're all underdogs once and awhile.
Moxie Musing Ten: Surround yourself with people that lift you UP.
Popularity is overrated. It's better to have a few good friends than a large number of empty relationships that will crumble when tested by crisis or adversity. If you leave someone's presence and feel disjointed or down, then stay away from them with no guilt. Life is short. Be around people who see your beauty from the inside and cherish you for your quirks. Be yourself--you'll find your tribe.
Moxie Musing Eleven: Say no with ease...and say yes only when you mean it.
Your time is valuable...and so is your sense of calm. If you truly cannot or do not want to do something that goes against your inner compass, say no. It's okay to say no. Too many people say yes too often and live lives of desperation and resentment. Say YES to people and activities that enhance your life's journey. When you get in the habit of saying no to things that don't lift you up, you'll know deep within you when it's the right time to say YES!
Moxie Musing Twelve: Avoid Scorekeepers
Believe me you'll know these types of people when you meet them. They love to tell you how you've let them down, point out how much they've done compared to you, how you are lacking in some way, what you "should" have done or thought or said compared to what you did...they keep score. Don't play their game. More importantly, don't BE a scorekeeper in life. Know that everyone is always doing the best they can at any given moment...the best THEY can. It's not always about you. Live and let live. If you find yourself with a scorekeeper, remember moxie musing ten because I'm certain they will not be lifting you up or making you feel good about yourself! People who are constantly keeping score end up very lonely. Don't be that person.
Moxie Musing Thirteen: Fall in love
Let yourself fall in love and be loved in return. Yes, you'll experience heartbreak along the way, but you'll also experience euphoria. Sometimes I worry that I'm not setting a good example in this area because your father died while you were both so young...but I hope I've told you enough to let you know how much I loved him...and how much he loved me. It's important to let someone close...to know what it's like to have someone love you no matter what you look like in the morning or what kind of hellish day you had...important to have that one person in the world who knows all of your faults and loves you even more. It's worth it. Let someone into your heart. Find that life partner who will have your back and whose back you will protect as well. Always be "all in". Say "I love you" without regret.
Moxie Musing Fourteen: Be kind
My grandmother used to tell me to compliment someone every day--a stranger, a family member, or a friend. It's amazing how telling the waitress that you admire her earrings or letting your friend know that her hair looks pretty today can completely light them up from the inside out. Do you know why? Because you're letting them know that they've been seen and appreciated. Be the kind of person that when you leave someone's presence, they feel better for the interaction. Kindness is underrated in the world, it seems, so value it, share it and personify it every day. Every. Day.
That's all I can think of right now. You may not appreciate it yet, but hopefully someday you will. Anyone else reading this may disagree with my words...but they're my words written because I truly believe them. By practicing all of the above, I've reached a level of contentment that I never dreamed possible. I'm following my bliss...and I hope you are, too. For me on my personal journey, contentment is worth more than any material achievement.
Bree and Ben--I love you guys! You've blessed my life in more ways than I can ever say. All I want for you is a life that makes you happy on all levels. That's it. Truly.